See Their Wounds Before You Sacrifice Your Mental Peace with this Mindset Shift

Preserving mental peace is the name of the game this season - and for me, a large component has been making an effort to stop taking things personally.

It's harder for empaths to protect their mental peace. Empaths feel a person's emotions along with the words they say. And as a result, they endure additional emotional strain when other people's words don't match the gut feeling they're having internally.

It's Difficult When People's Words Don't Match Their Intentions

Let me give you an example. I love a good joke, and once was the brunt of one that hit a little too close to home. It was an attempt at good-natured humor to make light of my circumstances, but I could feel the intention and projection behind the person's words.

I felt an internal conflict, when my gut feeling told me their feelings didn't match the words they were saying.

Understand Someone's Wounds Through the Lens of Your Own Experiences

As I thought about similar instances in my life, I recognized a pattern. Many individuals who exhibited similar behavior placed their self worth in the hands of a societal construct like viewing their worth through the eyes a superior, compared themselves to societal norms, or learned this behavior as a way to establish self confidence from someone who had used their weaknesses over them, to do the same thing.

Mindset Coaching Exercise - See Their Wounds Before You Sacrifice Your Mental Peace

This recognition allowed me to re-evaluate what had occurred using my own experiences. I remember what it felt like being in a similar situation, and saw an opportunity to forgive this person quickly in repent, as I may have acted in a similar way in the past unintentionally.

When I was younger, I remember priding myself on having a large friend group instead of considering each relationship's quality. Like many young women, the volume of people around me made me feel secure. It was a talking point which made me feel better about myself.

One day, in a casual conversation my Aunt, I remember asking her if she had a big group of friends, not remembering she had recently gone through workplace bullying. At the time, she was feeling isolated. My lack of sensitivity in the moment was completely unintentional. I wasn't intending to hurt her, but I had accidentally, simply by projecting my own insecurities.

Remembering this moment helped me easily forgive the person in my life who was suffering from pain I recognized. Sometimes, other people's actions have nothing to do with us, and everything to do with how they're feeling.

Conclusion

So the next time you experience behavior which makes you feel triggered and raw, take a step back and remember this story. When you look at someone's behavior as an expression of their torment, it's easy to forgive them and move on.

See their wounds before you sacrifice your mental peace.

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