Healing From Generational Curses - Others' Disappointment is Not Ours to Carry

We hear a lot about generational curses or issues which have been carried from generation to generation and without resolve, they'll continue creating problems in our reality.

For example, if we have a parent who had a tendency to find validation through infidelity, and we find ourselves looking for external validation in a similar manner, this would become an example of a generational curse which our responsibility to begin healing.

However, when we find a problem that has been carried/may still be carried by a member of our family, dealing with the resultant conflict can be challenge. After all, we're the only ones who can see the generational curse we're breaking.

Emotional Maturity Isn't Inherited

For instance, in some Asian households it's commonplace to automatically defer to your elders, even if you don't necessarily agree with what they're saying. It creates an ambience of respect, but when you're working on breaking a hurtful pattern (for example refusing to accept emotional repression by remaining silent through deferral) silence isn't an option.

What feels right to you is interpreted as disrespectful - and you encounter pushback when your elders are upset, as a result of not having the same level of emotional maturity.

Healing the associated feelings which arise starts with understanding each person has varying levels of emotional intelligence, and as you work on yourself it may not be worth it to enter conflict with someone who has a vastly different level of emotional maturity.

It doesn't mean avoiding the situation, but instead becoming cognizant of what is and what is not yours to carry.

Mindset Coaching Exercise: Healing From Generational Curses - Others' Disappointment is Not Ours to Carry

With the example I gave earlier, this would look like committing to a life free of emotional repression while separately accepting your family member is showing you they have a different level of emotional maturity.

When you shift your mindset to look at the situation from a higher perspective it allows you to easily transcend unnecessary conflict which results as a byproduct of breaking generational curses. By constantly remind yourself of what is and what is not yours to carry, you'll find it easier to protect your energy.

Conclusion

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