Break the Chains of Shame and Embarrassment with this Mindset Shift

One of the biggest reasons we don’t feel we’re worthy of more is because we’re continuing to punish ourselves for past mistakes.

In my opinion, our harsh inner critic reminds us of the past as a defense mechanism. When we encounter situations where we’re prone to re-experiencing negativity, our harsh inner critic forces us to face the past as a method of protection; safeguarding us from hyperextending ourselves in an unfavorable way thus preventing repeated exposure to painful feelings.

In reality, our growth is dependent on mistakes we make, and successful integration of the lessons learned reflects our commitment to continued growth.

The Chains of Past Mistakes Hold Us Prisoner

What I'm describing was similar to my own experiences. When I started integrating my shadow self, thinking back on past experiences used to make me cringe. I would dwell on things I wish I could've done better, instead of looking at myself from the lens of a person of a similar age, circumstances, and mentality.

These Chains Hold Us Back From Self-Actualization

This reflection helped me realize, when we find ourselves being reminded of our failures, it is actually the snowball effect which makes it feel so triggering. The initial reminder of our mistakes may be small, but past pain compiled with familiar recognition in the present doubles down on the emotional toll we're experiencing.

So to become limitless, we have to shift our mindset. Without doing so, we become shackled to the past, instead of actualizing our potential and using the lessons learned to expand our capabilities.

Break the Chains of Shame and Embarrassment with this Mindset Shift

Let's use the example of public speaking. Perhaps the first time didn't go so well - challenging shame in this instance would look like understanding the first time wasn't meant to be perfect. If it wasn't, there would be nothing to learn! Soothing your harsh inner critic would start with the understanding each future opportunity will help you hone your public speaking abilities.

A positive conversation with yourself before the next presentation could sound like reminding yourself without the past mistakes, you wouldn’t have anything that would push you to continue developing!

You’re playing the long game when it comes to refining yourself - each time you practice may not be perfect and that’s okay - each opportunity is refining the beautiful skill you’re developing.

Conclusion

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