A Phoenix Rises Over Time - Time as a Tool for Personal Accountability
- The Softest Heart
- Jun 17, 2024
- 3 min read
Updated: Jan 5
Does anyone else feel like they've become an entirely different person over the past 9 months? I can't put into words how transformative the past year has felt for me. Life has felt like an embodiment of the saying "a phoenix rises from the ashes," burning away everything which didn't align with the most authentic version of my soul to create a renewed identity.
The more I talk to other people, the more it's evident these major soul shifts are something we're all experiencing. But it's understandable as we're living in unprecedented times. Aliens? Major government reform? Since when did the millennial dream become rainwater collection and homesteading?
Our priorities are changing, and as a result we're forced to see ourselves in our rawest form. With this, can come harsh lessons regarding turmoil over who we used to be. As jarring as each realization may feel, we must choose to accept the entirety of who we are. The silver lining amidst the radical vulnerability we feel is to transmute these areas of rawness and shame into catalysts for healing.
With Time, Comes the Gift Of A New Perspective
Let me give you an example. A breakup is a major shift which shows us areas in need of healing. While you're going through the process, it doesn't feel that way. It feels overwhelming, and it's easy to be consumed by regret.
But as time passes, you reflect on the hurtful ending and unpack the lessons learned - including moments when you may have acted imperfectly. Time allows you to disengage the emotional autopilot which initially protected you. The perspectives gained over time, and our comfort facing ourselves in parallel with its duration, present opportunities to revisit these experiences and learn from them.
This mindset of a phoenix rising over time, becomes a tool we can use to transmute hurt into growth.
Mindset Coaching Exercise: A Phoenix Rises Over Time - The Power of Time Used as a Tool for Personal Accountability
We can use this mental framework to release longstanding resentment by changing the way we think. Each time you experience a major change, look back at moments of significant hardship in your life and see if you can use your experiences to relate to someone you perceive has wronged you.
For example, if you felt someone lashed out at you for no reason, think about how you felt when you were experiencing emotional strain, and how you may have acted towards the people around you. Are there encounters you could have handled better? Or more professionally?
Sometimes, all we need is to see their wounds before we sacrifice our mental peace.
Conclusion
Like a phoenix rising from the ashes, it takes time to burn away impure aspects of the self and integrate the lessons learned to grow from personal accountability. It may not be a comfortable process, but with time, every moment of regret and shame can be transformed into an opportunity for healing.
Transformation isn't easy but you have what it takes to develop the best version of you!
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